The ideas that shape our lives often come from our past experiences. Our minds are molded to mimic the actions and values we are taught at a young age. Specifically, the minds of children are easily manipulated and fashioned to think a certain way, at least for the early years of their lives.
Growing up watching Disney films, with a prevalent theme of friendship, there has been a common definition with the film. Quoting a few examples…
- “We’ll be friends forever, won’t we, Pooh,” “Even Longer”… Pooh Said. – Winnie the Pooh
- “We’ll always be friends forever.” – Fox and the Hound
- “You’ve got a Friend in me.” – Toy Story
- “I’m trying to be honest, just hear me out. You and I are a team. Nothing is more important than our friendship” – Monsters Inc.
- Tow Mater:” I knowed I made a good choice!” Lightning McQueen:” In what?” Tow Mater: “My best friend.” – Cars
The list can really go on forever.
What if we could hold on to our childhood values? If we could go back and remember what Disney taught us about friendships, how to treat people, how to love people, forgive, be reliable…would our relationships look different then the ones we currently have?
Honestly I think society has become too sensitive. They are so afraid of speaking up, being honest, being forgiving, that instead of doing the work to make a relationship work, instead they just let it go.
This is so frustrating to me! Friendships are something to value, the moment you share together and ways you grow are the only things that hold a real value in life. The ones you have to work at. The ones that are true and honest are the ones worth the most.
We can learn a lot from Disney, heck we can learn a lot from kids too. I have three cousins that I adore more than anything. They are so full of life, curiosity, sincerity, and are genuine in their pursuits. At there young age there really understand what a friend is supposed to be.
The oldest of the bunch is 7, and in the second grade. He was in class and there was some kind of competition for a prize. He really wanted to win, but did not. When his dad asked him why he was so upset, it wasn’t because he didn’t get the prize for himself, but because his friend had just lost his mother and going through a hard time, and he wanted to win the prize for him.
Can you imagine what life would look like if we held onto that childlike wonder, and put effort and heart into our relationships? Asked, what can we do for them, instead of what they can do for you?